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Coping With A Loved One’s Death Anniversary

If you have lost a loved one, youll understand how painful and difficult their death anniversaries can be. Its not just the date of death, it symbolizes loss and grief. Living through that day is like losing them all over again. So, how do you cope with the death anniversary of a loved one? Below, we provide useful tips to help you out:

  • Talk about your feelings

Talking about your feelings with someone who is close to you can help you cope with the pain. Talk about how much you miss them, or your favorite memories with them. Basically, dont bottle your feelings. Find an understanding and compassionate person a friend or family member who will support you through the day.

  • Put photos on display or go through them

While some hide pictures of their loved ones on a death anniversary because they think its all too much, some find it helpful and even calming to put up pictures where they can be easily seen or go through albums of the deceased. If you want to get creative and honor their memory on their death anniversary, you can even create collages, scrapbooks, videos and slideshows of your loved ones. These help to preserve their memory in a unique way.

  • Do what they used to love

One way to honor the memory of a loved one on their death anniversary is to spend time doing something they used to love when they were alive. Maybe they used to volunteer at an animal shelter on weekends, or maybe they used to go cycling every day. Whatever the activity is, it meant a lot to them. So, its meaningful that you remember them by indulging yourself in the very same activity. Or you could donate to causes which were close to their hearts.

Thanks for reading,

Karen

How To Choose The Perfect Funeral Song

We all know that picking out music for any occasion is no simple task. The songs or pieces we choose will set the mood and tone of the entire occasion, whatever it may be. But, its even more difficult to choose a song for a funeral, whether we are planning our own funeral in advance or its for the funeral of a loved one.

As difficult as it may be, the music played at someones funeral is an important and memorable part of the entire service, and often what people will remember most. So, if you want a meaningful song that people will remember you with, or you want someone you have lost to be remembered with a particular song, here are some tips on how to choose the perfect funeral song.

  1. Choose something personal and meaningful

The most important factor to consider is that the song or music you choose should be meaningful. And for that, it has to be personal. It doesnt matter if it does not sound like your usual funeral music. What matters is that it has meaning, and the deceased will be remembered with that music.

  1. Think of how you want people to feel at the funeral

It is well-known that music has the power to make us feel a certain way. The kind of music we listen to can effectively influence our mood. So, before choosing a song, consider how the song will make people feel at the funeral. Will it make them feel the way you want them to?

  1. Carefully go through the lyrics first

Before you settle with a song, make sure to go through the lyrics first and understand the meaning. Lyrics are as important as the tune. For example, the words of a song may not be ideal for the kind of funeral you want, or the ideas presented in the song may not match yours or the deceased.

Thanks for reading,

Karen

Planning For A Burial

Burying the loved ones along with their favorite objects has been an age old practice. Burial practices are in fact as old as human evolution and date as far back as 100,000 years or more. It is a ritual that indicates respect for the departed and in certain cultures, it is a required step so that the departed soul can enter back into the cycle of birth or afterlife.

To protect the physical remains, embalming, use of caskets, burial vaults, grave liners and more have been traditionally used. Choosing to bury your departed loved family member can involve making decisions on many aspects including:

  • Whether the physical remains of the loved one would be buried on a private property that you have earmarked or in the regulated cemetery. Certain legislation in some states may not allow burial on private property.
  • Whether the burial will be at sea
  • Burial in a crypt inside the mausoleum

While the wishes of the loved one will be the main consideration, choosing a burial could also be:

  • A religious or cultural practice
  • Family tradition
  • Loved ones dislike of cremation using flames
  • Desire for a natural burial surrounded by trees or open spaces

Other decisions that will need to be made include:

  • Embalming
  • Type of casket and vaults
  • Selection of the monument, grave marker or headstone
  • Words that will be put on the headstone or monument
  • Graveside service

Depending on the family and the departed loved ones preferences, there are a range of caskets, monuments and memorials available. While the caskets have to be chosen from steel, wood, semi-precious metal caskets to veterans caskets, there are plenty of color and size options for monuments and memorials made of granite.

Graveside services also depend on the familys emotional and traditional requirements. A professional burial planning services provider can help out with simple to elaborate arrangements and products for the burial.

Thanks for reading,

Karen

How To Cherish Your Loved Ones’ Memories During The Holidays

Holidays are a joyous and wonderful time of the year when close friends and families come together in celebration. However, if you have experienced the loss of a loved one, you probably know that holidays, as happy as they are, can be a rather difficult time. The space a loved one whether a mother, father, sister, brother, child or any one left is felt even more deeply during the holiday season.

However, it is possible to remember your loved ones and cherish their memories during these times without having to grieve and miss out on the holiday fun and cheer. Below, we share the different ways you can honor a loved ones memories during the holidays:

  1. Set a place for them at the table

While this may sound simple, it is deeply meaningful for many families and friends. It signifies that although our loved ones may be physically gone, there will always be place for them and they will live on in our hearts.

  1. Make a donation in their name

A good idea is to donate money or their old clothes, basically anything that could help a special cause. It is even more special if you donate to something that your loved one would have strongly felt for and supported.

  1. Light a special candle for them

You can keep a beautiful, scented candle lit and place it where you can easily see it, like on the dining table or in the living room. You can light it up throughout the holiday season, but make sure to never leave the candle unattended.

  1. Make a memory blanket

A sweet gesture is to make a memory blanket. Cut out pieces of your loved ones old clothes and make a quilted blanket out of the pieces. This helps to make you feel like they are still with you.

Thanks for reading,

Karen

How To Make Your Funeral Wishes Known To Your Loved Ones

 

Talking about death is not the most uplifting and pleasant conversation to have, especially regarding your own death. However, when your time comes, if you would like your funeral conducted in a certain way, or have other funeral wishes you want fulfilled, it is necessary that you speak to your loved ones about it in an open manner.

 

To make this process easier for you, here are some useful tips we would like to offer:

 

  • Have your whole family gather together, and be direct and open in communicating your wishes to them

First, you have to gather everyone you want to impart your wishes to parents, siblings, partner, children, etc in a single room. Make sure you choose a quiet, peaceful and private room where you and the people closest to you can discuss the topic openly. When you tell them your wishes, be direct. Tell them clearly if you want to be buried or cremated, who you want the pallbearers to be, who you want to give the eulogy, etc.

 

  • Remember to reassure them that your aim is to help, not to upset

Granted this will be an emotional conversation, especially if you are in poor health and death is imminent. So, make sure to reassure your loved ones that the point of having this conversation and imparting your last wishes to them is so that they can be relieved of at least some amount of stress during a rough time, and that your intention is not to upset them.

 

  • Include a written copy of your funeral wishes in a file and give copies to your family members

Write down, in a detailed manner, your funeral wishes and put the original copy in a file, disbursing copies to your family members. Be sure to include your disposition preferences, favorite items (such as color and flowers), any songs that you would like played at your service, information to be included in your obituary, military service information, and preferences on speakers at your service.

Thanks for reading!

Karen

How To Personalize Funeral Services In Honor Of Your Loved Ones

Funeral services are an important ritual that not only helps us to let go of our loved ones, but also remember them and honor their memory in the presence of all that knew them. As such, many people may like to organize a funeral that truly reflects the kind of person the deceased was and the kind of life they lived.

If you too would like to hold a funeral service that will honor the memory of a loved one in a special and unique way, here are some creative tips on how to personalize a funeral service.

  1. Customize their casket or urn

You can have the casket or urn customized in such a way that it truly reflects the deceased. For example, you can decorate it with their favorite possession, or items that are representative of who they were as a person like their career, passion or hobby.

  1. Use their passion as an inspiration

Think about what made your loved one most happy. What were they passionate about? What did they invest most of their time and energy in? Use this passion of theirs as a theme for the funeral. For example, if they loved volunteering and charity work, you can invite guests to make donations for a cause that was close to their heart.

  1. Get creative with photo displays

Gather old photos that best reflect the kind of person they were, and tell their life story through these pictures. You can make a collage, hand pictures all over the service location, make wreaths out of such photos, etc.

  1. Ask guests to share their favorite memory

A unique and sweet way to remember your loved one is to ask all the guests to write down their favorite memory with them, along with their names. This is a creative replacement for a registry as well.

Thanks for reading!

Karen

How To Choose A Headstone Inscription

Headstone inscriptions are a special way to remember your loved ones who have passed away. Many people want to inscribe something that truly reflects the kind of person the deceased was, while some may choose favorite quotes or sayings.

Some people even let their family know the inscription of their choice before their time comes, but if this isnt the case, it will be up to you, as a loved one, to choose the headstone inscriptions. Here are some tips to help you out.

  • Dont rush or make decisions in haste

Remember to take your time and dont rush into anything. Keep in mind that a headstone inscription is something that will remain for a long time, if not forever. Allow yourself and whoever is involved enough time to carefully consider all available options regarding words, design etc.

  • Avoid using words unnecessarily

Dont clutter the headstone with unnecessary words. Usually, simple, short yet meaningful wordings are a good choice. For example, dont clutter with common wordings like In loving memory of. Instead, choose words that have an impact on a personal level.

  • Choose designs and fonts that are timeless

You dont have to conform to trends that everyone else is following. Choose designs and fonts that you really like, and will stand the test of time. Besides, the designs and fonts chosen can really make a difference on the entire look and feel of the headstone, so choose carefully.

  • Consider quotes from poems, books, or songs

While some people like to put words like Beloved brother, father and grandfather or something similar, it may be a good idea to use quotes from poems, books or songs that the deceased really liked, or what you think would accurately capture the feeling of loss, love, or grief.

Thanks for reading!

Karen

Top Trends in Funeral Services

Like all other industries, the funeral service industry also evolves with time. There have been some changes in the way we grieve for the loss of our loved ones, and the rituals we follow to honor their memory. If you are looking for innovative ways to say your final goodbyes, here are some of the top trends in funeral services.

  1. Personalization of services

Today, it is increasingly becoming popular to personalize funeral services so as to reflect the kind of person the deceased was. More and more people are now realizing that funeral services are valuable points of departure, and they want to make them as meaningful as possible; and they achieve this through personalization of funeral services. For example, having a theme based on deceaseds interests and passions.

  1. Eco-friendly funerals

Being environment-friendly is a popular lifestyle today, and people even like to implement it in funeral practices. Some examples include opting out of embalming, or choosing to embalm with products free from formaldehyde, using recycled caskets, adopting a burial technique that would save space, and more.

  1. Increase in cremations

Another trend is choosing cremation over burial. Although a larger number of people still choose burial, the number of people who opt for cremation is quickly increasing. There are many reasons that may drive this decision, most of which are to do with being more environmentally friendly, more cost-effective, due to personal beliefs, etc.

  1. Crowdfunding funerals

Its no secret that funerals are expensive, yet necessary and therefore, it is difficult for many people to pay for the expenses. However, many have found a way to solve this financial issue crowdfunding. From financial donations from friends and relatives, to using a third-party platform to raise funds, crowdfunding funerals is a rising trend. Some even request others to make small contributions instead of sending flowers.

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Karen

Early Planning for Proper Farewells

Making all the necessary arrangements for bidding a proper farewell to your loved ones and this world requires some time and preparation. Funeral services are the last parting gesture connecting one to this world. There are important details and expectations regarding how one might want to depart from this world. There are internment decision to be made (burial, cremation, burial at sea, donation, medicine, eulogies obituaries, and so on), things that you would want to leave behind and how you want to be treated on your final day. All of this requires pre-planning. It is advised to draw up an estimate of cost based on ones expectations.

There are quite a few financially beneficial options present such as funeral insurance, pre-booking of cemetery space, and pre-need contracts for funeral services. Your final resting place should be a place of your approval. So, it is wise to make an early choice on the type of casket or urn of your preference. Pre-need vessels are quite common today. You might also want to organize all your personal information and documents. This will make things easier while framing your obituary.

There are a variety of funeral events that can be organized at the final day. You can choose to observe your religious rites or have a wake. You can also have a viewing or a gathering of your friends and family afterwards. You can choose services or acts carried out to honor your last wishes. Make an early note of them. Decide upon your favorite song or hymn that you would like to be played on that day. Finally, draw up a list of people that you would want to be notified after your departure. Your family, friends, and colleagues at various organizations, whoever you think would be affected, should be on the list. With careful pre-planning and management of resources, you can make your final day a profound gesture to your loved ones.

How Funeral Services Help In Coping with Grief

It is often said that where words are not enough, you can turn to rituals. This is perhaps most true when it comes to the loss of a loved one. Death is something no one is prepared to face and no one can get used to, and coming to terms with it can be extremely difficult. Death is much more than sudden absence, it is about losing a bond, losing a presence. Its losing a loved one, and it is never easy.

However, rituals like funeral services can help us cope with this grief in more ways than we may understand. Below are the different ways funeral services aid us in the mourning process of death, and perhaps, help us learn to let go.

  • Funeral services help you accept the reality of loss

One of the most difficult aspects of someones death is actually acknowledging it. It may seem quite simple, but anyone who have experienced it will understand just how confusing and difficult it can be. A funeral service provides a physical, tangible time and space of departure, making it easier to say goodbye.

  • Funeral services help you celebrate the life lived

Funeral services are an opportunity to remember the person who has died, and celebrate the life he/she has lived. It is a time to bring back fond memories, so you can keep them in your hearts forever in the way they would want to be remembered.

  • Funeral services help you to express grief

Another benefit of funeral services is that they allow us to openly express our grief and mourn the loss of our loved ones. Grieving is an important process that can help us to accept and understand the reality of death.

 

  • Funeral services help you to receive support

Funeral services bring family and friends together in one place, allowing you to lean on each other for much needed emotional support during hard times. Hearing comforting words from others, even just their presence makes the journey easier.