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Offering Support to Children During Times of Grief


Children are sensitive beings who express emotions differently compared to adults. When they lose a loved one, children show grief in different ways depending on their age, circumstances, and how close they were to the person who passed away.

If your child has lost a loved one, it is important for you to stay by their side and offer support in any way possible. Here are some ways to help a child cope during times of grief.


  1. Talk to your child about death and explain things using simple words and terms. Approach the subject rationally but show your little one you care. If you are breaking the bad news to them, be direct but give them time to analyze what you just said.


  1. Different children react differently to the news of a loved one passing away. Some children cry while others are curious and ask questions. Stay by your child's side and watch how they react. Offer reassurance, hold them, and answer any questions they may have. If your child does not react at all, do not force them to say something. Let them be but stay by their side.


  1. In most cases, the death of a close family member means that there could be changes your child should expect, such as not being able to visit Grandma again. Explain the situation to him or her and tell them of the changes they will start noticing shortly.


  1. Speak to your child about last rites and funerals. Allow them to participate in memorial services. It is wise to inform them that a funeral will take place and explain what happens during one. Explain some details of cremation or burial if necessary.

As days pass following the loved one’s death, encourage your child to talk about that person and make sure he or she remembers them. Do not shy away from discussing the person who passed away. While taking care of your little one also make sure that you have enough time and space to allow yourself to grieve.


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